You’d think after being rejected over a hundred times, that it’d get easier, but rejection is and always will be hard. Whether you get turned down for a date, a job, an idea, or a novel, no likes to hear no, sorry, you’re just not what we’re looking for. It makes you question yourself, hinders your confidence, and after being rejected, it’s hard to put yourself out there again.
The truth about rejection is that while it’s disappointing, it isn’t about you as a person, and while it’s easier said than done, you shouldn’t take it personally. Take the opportunity to grow from it.
What I learned from rejection:
1. Opinions are subjective and no one is going to like everything. It’s just a simple fact. I don’t like everything myself, so I can’t expect someone else to.
2. You can do everything right and still be rejected. Rejection occurs for many reasons—another client has a similar piece of work, the genre is impacted, just not interested, etc. Rejection happens. Don’t let the circumstances define you.
3. Sometimes you need to take a break. If rejection starts making you want to quit, it’s time to take a vacation. Write something new, relax, and remember why you love your novel.
4. Never give up. If you give up, you can never succeed.
To help get through rejection, I find that discussing it with someone else helps ease the pain of it. With saying that, what has rejection taught you?